How often is the negative self talk in our heads, so vile, that we wouldn’t dream of saying it out loud about another person? These are often echos of things said, or imagined, about you and your ability to parent...
Honestly, with 5 years to think about reaching my goal to become an IBCLC, this bit has taken me by surprise! I studied for hours on end on the many permutations of human lactation, but I didn't consciously think about the world of business that I was joining! A world of marketing, adverting and business… Continue reading I didn’t really see that one coming!
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Note: This was written in 2016, printed in an LLL members publication. Current day, Tessa is a Lactation Consultant with many more stories to share about the time in between. At the starting line, walking into my motherhood journey I held some strong values. They were informed by work as a healthcare professional, by my… Continue reading Tounge Tie, a Journey from the professional to personal.
Last week, I was talking with a friend and human I admire, about their internal wobbles surrounding sitting the Lactation Consultant exam. As I only sat the exam in October 2019, I remember these feelings well, right here, in the pit of my stomach. During our chat, the title of the blog appeared in my… Continue reading The job I hired myself for
If you want to know more of the when, how and why you might want to, check out this link from an NHS trust (direct PDF download). Here are some tried and tested tips for you.. Get the oxytocin flowing stroke, relax, time your time and roll fingers towards the nipple. Light touch, like a… Continue reading Antenatal Expression of Colostrum – some tips
You are the holder of the puzzle pieces.I got all emotional last time I taught an introduction to #slings #workshop with @villagemidwife.Talking about these puzzle pieces, made me well up with emotion, remembering one of the times I #knew I meant for this work.As I passed around a box of puzzle prices, explained how you… Continue reading You hold the puzzle pieces
Update March 2020 - many of these organisations will have an online offering, do still get in touch whilst physical groups are closed NHS provision NHS please ask your midwife/health visitor for the most up to date clinics. The flyers on this link are nessiasrily the most up to date. I will upload more as… Continue reading Feeding support in and around High Wycombe
Another common query from parents at this time of year in the UK. It's Christmas party season with employers and families alike. So what's the norm for breastfeeding families in these scenarios? From the moment your baby was born, they began to rely on you for nourishment, comfort, safety and as researcher Neils Burgman would… Continue reading A party with out my baby
& interplay with religion. I found this set of videos so interesting, most of this is relevant to many modern parents entering parenthood. What was new to me, as a non-religious person, was to hear more about the interplay with depression & religious beliefs/culture (This is the best terminology I have for this, please tell… Continue reading Postnatal depression
Resting and recuperating after the intensity of October + IBCLC exam study. Focus - Behind the scenes, building business Started weekly admin time bucks new uni Library. (love this!)Attended we are women festival - (relaxing & affirming)Had and Ideas Untangling with Nina Purple Crocus communications (so clarifying!)Supervision given and received with other breastfeeding supporters.Networking with… Continue reading Last & Next (Nov & Dec)
Here in the UK, there is a pervasive thought that breastfeeding will happen naturally and if it doesn't, the help being offered must be the best. Parents often then conclude that if that hasn't worked, nothing will. Here is where many parents trip up with their new kids, and the health care system fails them.… Continue reading Asking for help
This list is for those super interested in my background, for most parents knowing that I am a UK registered Paediatric nurse and experienced breastfeeding specialist is enough. If you have any suggestions for my further training do let me know ! Professional QualificationsBucks New Uni - BSc Nursing (2007 - 2011)Kings College London -… Continue reading Training and Qualifications
Pre visit questionnaire Just after we have agreed a time and place for our session together, I will send you a link to the pre visit questionnaire.Questions are about you and your baby, any health issues I should know about and some logistical concerns. I use this information to plan our session and also keep… Continue reading Before our visit
How many times have you seen the 'just in case' lists for parents to be, that are a mile long and include a bunch of 'feeding aids' to 'increase your chance of breastfeeding'?Did you know that the first solution to most breastfeeding issues, is NOT giving a bottle? A skilled breastfeeding supporter will offer you… Continue reading The trap that catches most new parents
How often have you thought, this problem is unique to just me, my family or my kid? You might find out that issue or situation actually it's quite common but many parents get stuck without knowing how to gain realistic expectations and norms. But why? As I type up another follow up email about just… Continue reading It’s quite normal, sorry.
5th ed Wombach & Riordan Except, about breastfeeding and human lactation, there really really is. When I am seen carrying around my text books, whilst I study for the IBCLC certification exam, and I am asked all the time why there is so much to know about breastfeeding. You just pop your baby on and… Continue reading There isn’t that much to know – is there?
So your partner is about to have your child and you've heard a lot, (how could you not?) about how breastfeeding is the best. Thing is you've also heard it has disadvantages, heard not everyone can do it and your worried. You want your kid to get all the good stuff, you want your partner… Continue reading My partner wants to breastfeed
I learnt the hard way round. . On these squares, you can be forgiven for thinking life is rosey in others worlds. It’s not common for health care professionals to share their personal stories, and I am calling time on that! . Breastfeeding my children was the hardest thing I have EVER done! I didn’t… Continue reading I didn’t know what I needed
Can you do it? Yes you can! This episode and links aim to empower you, get in touch if you want to explore your options further or share your experiences 🙂 Resources mentioned Unicef - beyond 12 months Kellymom - milk components beyond 12 months La Leche Leauge - breastfeeding and working Nancy Mohrbacher -… Continue reading Breastfeeding and working
This week on the podcast.. My chat with #parents on #mush last night had me all fired up so naturally, I recorded a new #podcast episode about it and the wonder of #breastfeeding #support..Search for @beyondbabyhood on your podcast player to #find it 🙂 Listen on Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Stream online @ Anchor
Is it really free? Should it be? It's a common idea, anything that is essential in life, would be available free if it was needed. Is there a need? As a breastfeeding supporter, I see this applied to my specialism constantly. The need does not seem to be there with the uk having one of… Continue reading Breastfeeding support should free
The beginning of September marks a week focusing on reducing our waste in the UK and what better time is there to think more about how infant feeding habits might be adapted to reduce waste. In May 2019, the UK declared a climate emergency. Many in power are focusing on the big things, but what… Continue reading Is Breastfeeding Zero Waste?
This blog is born out of the conversations I have had / seen about about Black Breastfeeding Week in September 2019. If you have thoughts like these, read on. Black breastfeeding week is a USA thing. I support everyone who seeks my support.I do enough, this week does not apply to me. It is uncomfortable… Continue reading Confused by Black Breastfeeding Week?
Podcast episode 3 Supporting loved one in their own feeding journey can be emotional. It can be hard. Sometimes your passion for breastfeeding can even backfire. In this episode I discuss my 3 top tips for doing the best by you and the other parent. 1. Listen - Listen and listen again. 2. Love -… Continue reading Supporting others to breastfeed – podcast
Are they selling the right message? There is a baby show in the county I work within, this month. I remember visiting one, heavily pregnant with my first born son and I thought of the type of help I needed then. I didn't know what I know now, two babes later. At the time, like… Continue reading Baby shows & local support services
Many new parents (& many health care professionals) assume, the further away from new born days they get, the less breastfeeding questions they will have. It is not uncommon, however, for a parent to suddenly realise the surpassed their goals and beyond babyhood, new challenges and questions arise. Then it can be hard to find… Continue reading Breastfeeding Gynastics
Two way strechy wrap (Hana) in a Front wrap cross carry Another day and another common query from a parent. This one wants to share all the positive effects of carrying with her pregnant friend & gift her a stretchy wrap. My friend is having a baby in Nov and I want to gift her… Continue reading Stretchy wraps – info & tips
When babies enter the world, they expect to be, and need to be carried by us. Be this in our arms or with the aid of slings and carriers, the positive effects are wide reaching for baby, parents and society as whole. Positive effects for baby Encourages bondingHelps to regulate body systems and growthPromotes and encourages… Continue reading Positive effects associated with babywearing
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They came, they latched on, & they went home with a spring in their step. Here's what happened when the Big Latch on and workshops came to High Wycombe in August 2019. Every year, all around the world, from 1 to 7 August is World Breastfeeding Week. Individuals and organisations alike, are encouraged celebrate, collaborate… Continue reading Big Latch On & Workshops
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Questions Can I drink wine when feeding? How do I know if I have mastitis if I don't have pink nipples of white breasts? ( I can't see a red mark on dark skin) Can you REALLY make breast milk if you are adopting a newborn and haven't had kid previously? How does it work? What to do when baby has tongue tie? What else about the physiology of a babies mouth can hinder breastfeeding / other issues?
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Your little one does not stop expecting their needs to be met, just because its hot outside but you might have questions about caring for you little one when those needs seem harder to meet in the heat It is just as important as ever to read and meet your little peoples needs. Here are… Continue reading Responsive parenting in a heatwave
Can I do it in public ? Will I be able to put my baby off ? Can it be banned in public? Here are more ideas on breastfeeding out and about from LLLGB I'd love to hear your experiences, send me a voice clip and you might get featured on the podcast 🙂 Listen… Continue reading Breastfeeding in public – Beyond Babyhood 16
Here are my top 6 sleep resources, good for parents and professionals alike. I use these often and found many of them helpful personally too. Is your favourite here? Sleep Websites Reasons why night waking is the biological norm by LLL Greast Britain Baby Sleep Information Scource (BASIS) - This website presents research evidence about… Continue reading 6 Sleep resources
(Blurr to protect confidentiality) Once we've agreed upon a date and time, I'll send you a previsit questionnaire. This makes sure I know a bit about you before I come also helps us both plan what we are going to cover. We start in your home, where you are comfortable and sessions last between 1-2… Continue reading What actually happens in a 1:1 session?
Did you notice the online chatter recently, about breastfeeding weeks and celebrations? If this is your first year as a breastfeeding parent, you might wonder what they are all about and why someone might go to an event about it. Breastfeeding used to be the unquestioned norm of feeding and raising babies but a few… Continue reading Why attend a breastfeeding event?
Aunt bossy, nosy neighbors and pushy parents at the school gates all feel like they have a say on when your growing breastfed little one weans. You might feel pressure to wean due to cultural/historical reasons, religious reasons and even medical reasons. If it doesn’t feel or sound right, I encourage you to question it… Continue reading Why give up your best parenting tool?
New podcast episode What lies have you beloved about yourself? This will be hard? You can't do this? The other way is easier? This weeks podcast episode I wonder about the lies we believe in parenthood "We are the only species of mammals that doubts our ability to give birth" or - feed our babies!… Continue reading Truth in Motherhood
The WHO code & your business. So you run a baby business and some has mentioned the WHO code to you, they might have suggested that you are unintentionally violating it. You are passionate about breastfeeding and confused how someone thinks you are doing something unhelpful. Here’s what you need to know. Thing 1 This… Continue reading 10 things you need to know about…
What happens if someone comes in the dark of night and gifts your the confidence you need to succeed? 💭This is what happened for a family recently and with permission, I share with you what happens within babywearing consultation with me (babywearing consultation). L I S T E N First I listen to your needs… Continue reading B A B Y W E A R I N G CONSULTATION
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