Truth in Motherhood

Truth in Motherhood

New podcast episode


What lies have you beloved about yourself?


This will be hard? You can’t do this? The other way is easier?


This weeks podcast episode I wonder about the lies we believe in parenthood


“We are the only species of mammals that doubts our ability to give birth” or – feed our babies! (Ina Gaskin May)


Listen now here


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B A B Y W E A R I N G CONSULTATION


What happens if someone comes in the dark of night and gifts your the confidence you need to succeed?






💭This is what happened for a family recently and with permission, I share with you what happens within babywearing consultation with me (babywearing consultation).













L I S T E N





First I listen to your needs as a family.
💭This family are planning for adoption and wanted to explore some new options for helping a new family member adjust into their home.





L O O K





We explored safety, responsive parenting & feeding.
This family showed me their sling, I then demonstrated the different slings I had with me.
💭This family wanted to focus on how slings encourage attachment (bonding), responsive parenting and any explore adaptations to use with existing children in their family.





F E E L





The fun bit for us all, parents then try on the slings!
💭For this visit, their kids were in bed so they tried a range of slings, carriers, wraps with teddies.






E V A L U A T E





We asses, have we met their needs?
💭Can you 🌷guess🌷 which each parents favorite?
Hint – it wasn’t the same for each parent!






F O L L O W





As children grow, their carrying needs change. There are adaptations for many challenges & my training helps me navigate them with you.





💭For this family, the process of adoption means the specific needs and preferences of the child are currently unknown. This means we have a few more visits planned so we can adapt as needed in the future.







🌷Service : Beyond Babyhood Consultation
🌷Time :1.5 – 2 hours
🌷Cost : poa
(Available 1hr drive in/around High Wycombe)
If you are ready to explore your babywearing needs, get in touch 🙂


Help, I have a last minute holiday and no space for a pushchair!

In this blog:




  • Outgrowing first sling





  • Diverse abilities





  • Holidaying with slings




The title of this blog is a typical query for a babywearing consultant. Like most of the parents I work with, this mum has chosen to tune into her child’s needs, not turn away from them. She has met a challenge and bravely, seeks help.


Beyond Babyhood Consultation


Fast forward to our first meeting, mum explains she has a last minute invite to a holiday with friends and there is absolutely no space for a buggy.


She has seen a woven wrap back carry and wants to learn how to do it for her holiday. Maybe you have already notices, this isn’t where she ends up!


Diverse abilities


Mama explains further how her sons differing physical abilities, translates into extra cuddles when they are out and about. He is used to resting his tired legs within a pushchair or a much loved sling.


Outgrowing first sling


The problem is, this sling is now a wee bit small., no longer supporting his growing body.


It works in a pinch, and her son chimes in to show me how it digs into his legs and hurts.


We talk a bit more around safety, skill, budget and time available before the holiday.


This mum was keen to see the carry her friend had shown her, so I show her how it’s done.


Together we notice the how it’s not the right solution for them.


Realistic expectations


At this point mum and big boy seem to deflate a little. It’s not uncommon for the end result to not match the parents initial idea. Options and troubleshooting however are what I am trained to work around.


Adapting what you have already



So next I show her how she could wrap a scarf around the bottom of her existing sling to spread the weight of her son’s bottom. This seems like a workable emergency solution and we talk about the possibility of visiting the local sling library, who I know have a dedicated sling for older, diversely abled children .


Visit a sling library


I then float the idea of looking at the preschool sized Connecta/Integras and mum admits she has been looking at them but didn’t like the patterns available at the time. Ah I think, I bet this is where her heart lies. It’s like a bell goes off in my head and I know we have reached both the ‘ah ha’ moment and the limit of our time together.


Buying a larger carrier


We part and I follow up with the links I promised and a willingness to keep in touch. A few days later, I hear the Connecta is on its way to her, just in time for their trip.


Holidaying with slings


Just today, I get these photos in my inbox of this glorious duo. Look at their smiling faces, their glowing skin and hooray for accessing the places untouchable by pushchair!



6 Top reasons to use a sling on holiday;


💜 pack up small


💙 carry tired legs


💚 access remote places


💛 a place to nap


🧡 reconnect whilst moving


❤ a safe space in new surroundings


Choosing connection


Meeting our children’s needs beyond babyhood can feel like a struggle sometimes, but with a bit of skilled troubleshooting, there is often a way that can meet most needs and situations.


You are quite unlikely to regret choosing to meet your child’s need for closeness and connection as, lets face it, we all crave it too right?


What has worked for you in the past? I’d love to hear your stories too, please get in touch.


Story shared with permission


Find a sling library near you.


Book with me today and you too will have a smile this big 💚


Unmet expectations

This weeks podcast, I am reflecting upon unmet expectations in parenting, feeding and how coming together to share and learn helps.


Share your thoughts with me on social media @beyondbabyhood.


Book on the Big Latch On & workshops here.


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Listening Skills


None of us are perfect, we live busy lives, often juggling many mental processes  at once. We try our best to listen to those we are supporting but sometimes we may fall short.





Honing in on listening skills can really help us offer more effective support. The photos bellow are adapted from a list by the Bloemfontein Samaritans. I discovered them as part of my breastfeeding specialist training and adapted them to share with you all 🙂 





This series of images is  about listening skills and what it looks like when you are listening and when you are not





I believe they are applicable to all situations, in all interactions with others, what ever your role is within that moment. I find these helpful in all my roles, from health care professional to babywearing consultant. 
I hope that with awareness ( and practice) we can strive to be aware of our flaws and do better for those we interact with on a professional and personal level. 









You are not listening when… 









You say you understand before you know me well enough.

You have an answer for my problem before I have finished telling you what it is.

You sense that my problem is embarrassing and you try to avoid it.

You are dying to tell me all your experiences which make mine seem unimportant.

You need to feel successful You come up with all the clever answers which have little to do with me.

You cut me off before I have finished speaking.

You are trying to sort out all the details and are not aware of the feelings behind the words.




You are listening when… 





You come quietly into my world and let me be.

You try to understand me when I do not make much sense.

You hold back your desire to give me advice.

You don’t take my problem from me but trust me to deal with it my own way.

You give me enough room to discover for myself why I feel upset and enough time to think for myself what is best.

You allow me the dignity of making my own decisions even though you may think I am wrong.

You don’t tell me that funny story you are just burning to tell.

You realise that how I take from you leaves you a bit tired and drained.

You grasp my point of view even when it goes against your sincere convictions.

You spend a short valuable time with me and make me feel it is forever.








Optional activity 





I invite you to have a look through them & reflect upon how they make you feel.
Do they ring true to you?
Do any remind you of a recent interaction?
Is there anything you will try to apply to your our skill set?
​Are there any you would add?

There is no need to share your thoughts, but naturally, I’d love to hear them.

Post activity thoughts.. 
We are not aiming to be free from our flaws, only aware of them so we can notice them in the moments that matter the most. When will you next give the gift of listening?




This blog piece forms part of my Slingababy consultancy project, we are tasked with sharing good quality information to benefit the whole baby wearing community. 
Photo Credit – Alex Cetra Photography 
Woven Wrap – Didymos Arora

Beyond Babyhood

What happens when you meet child’s needs with empathy and compassion?


When we tune into our children and listen to their needs and the messages they are sending us, we can often avert the power struggles.


A sling, a cuddle and some nourishing mummy milk, was exactly what this one needed on the way home from a walk today.


I felt the familiar pull to put him off, to wrap him on my back or just plain refuse and make him walk home. Because although my soul filled with the joys of spring, my limbs were weary too.


But I took the path of least restistance, he was sleepy & he rested. Then oxytocin buzz helped me power through to home.


Breastfeeding beyond babyhood has its own unique challengs and often, parents don’t know another family making similar choices. Reach out if you’d like to be connected with other parents like you. ❤️




A-Z of Babywearing beyond babyhood


So you know reasons wear your newborn, but what about after?





Recently, I sat down with a group of mothers and we got talking about all the
things we loved about babywearing.

We all had different experiences but something we did all agree upon was that doing it beyond the newborn period was so helpful and we all had different reasons. 

It got me wondering bout how many other parents are missing out on this parenting tool? So here are some of the (many) reasons to babywear beyond babyhood. 




It’s never to late to choose new ways to connect with your child, message me today for personalized support.









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