My partner wants to breastfeed

My partner wants to breastfeed






So your partner is about to have your child and you’ve heard a lot, (how could you not?) about how breastfeeding is the best. 





Thing is you’ve also heard it has disadvantages, heard not everyone can do it and your worried. You want your kid to get all the good stuff, you want your partner to get it too. It’s a tricky mind space to be in.





Human milk champion





So what can you do? What if you make yourself a pretty awesome repository of information about human milk and breastfeeding? Have you heard it takes a village to raise a child? Some of that is information, and you are well placed to be the one to consume it and replay it when needed.





Doubts





New parents are filled with doubts, there isn’t a handy guide that comes out with the baby after all. But breastfeeding, there are lots of principles that when learned, can cut away lots of worry. 





The vast majority of women, when well supported and informed, can fully feed their babies needs. There are some things that might delay the full milk coming in, why not start reading about them here





What if you learn the mechanics of milk production? Remind your partner when they are confused about their breasts feeling hard and full, that they need to empty them to make more milk because the fuller they are, the more messages are sent back to the brain to make less milk.





When the baby wants to feed hour after hour, remind them they are literally growing a human from their body & how much you appreciate them riding the growth spurts. Then bring them cake.





When your baby or partner is struggling, don’t be afraid to get them skilled support. There is lots of help out there, if you know where to look. You can also search ‘breastfeeding support’ and ‘your town’ to find services near you. There are different roles, some are free, some are not, read more the types here. . 





Bonding





Many parents feel that without a bottle to feed, there won’t be a special time with your baby?





Understanding that neurology, your baby needs your partner more than you (mostly) to grow that big brain as big as it can be but that doesnt mean you have to be left out.
This research shows early skin to skin with your baby can help YOU to bond, some research suggests it changes your brain and lowers YOUR chance of having postnatal mood disorders.

Although I have been careful to assume how you identify, the world lags behind, replace father for whatever phrase you identify with, the effects are likely to be true for us all. 





Some patents make bath time their thing, or baby massage. Some partners do an early morning walk whilst their partner rests. Some pop on a sling and teach their baby about their hobby.





Super power





If you want one to equal the warmth and comfort of milk and mum, get your hands on a sling or carrier (carrying matters sling guide) and master it now, before the baby comes.





When carried, babies cry 43% less (stats) and adding movement & the familiar sounds of your voice usually = a quiet content baby. Find out more about slings here – from a GP and carrying expert. 





So if you come home to a frantic partner and frazzled baby, you know what to do!





You are a team





Stand up for your partners goals if you have a family member or friend undermining you. Maybe you will even have the fact to disabuse uncle bob, that your baby is not using your partner as a dummy.

This time in your child’s life is fleeting and the extra care of your partner now, will pay off for decades to come. If you have a girl, your grandchildren will one day benefit from your partner breastfeeding as her eggs are already within your unborn child. 





Mostly, remember you are a team and when times get tough, remember you both want the best for you all.





We do the best you can, with the info and resources you have available to us at the time. We all have our limits, if you need extra support, seek it.





Your baby, and your partner don’t need you to be perfect, just good enough





#yougotthis 





Read more





Many links within the text but you might also like.
Are there any disadvantages of breastfeeding
How carrying helps with perinatal mood disorders – Visual guide (direct pdf download)





Useful resources 


What’s in a name?


Everything.





Beyond Babyhood is more than just a name, a business handle or a hashtag. It is a statement of purpose, a promise and an evolutionary normality.





Purpose





It is not one size fits all care.
It is not half hearted assistance.

It is care with a conscious focus on being inclusive and adjusting for inequalities in care.

It is meeting you where you are at, and empowering you to move towards your goal with confidence.

It is about lack of ego, if I am not the right person to work with you, we shall find the person who is.





Promise





It is skilled support, at the time you need it, for as long as you need it.





You do not need to feel lost, alone, over whelmed, or wonder where to turn.

I am not afraid to say, I do not know, but I will find out for you. Puzzles fascinate me and there is always a way to move forward. Some times, that looks like redefining your version of success.





Evolutionary Normality.





How ever long you aim to feed, it is A ok with me. If you learn to love what you are doing and want to keep going longer? I’m here for you too.





It is both normal, and natural to feed well beyond babyhood but most support and public opinion drop off after the early months.





Beyond Babyhood does not.









What next?





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