You hold the puzzle pieces

You hold the puzzle pieces






You are the holder of the puzzle pieces.

I got all emotional last time I taught an introduction to #slings #workshop with @villagemidwife.

Talking about these puzzle pieces, made me well up with emotion, remembering one of the times I #knew I meant for this work.

As I passed around a box of puzzle prices, explained how you as the parent are gathering them all. This was my gift to them to remind them.

At the same time, in my head, I remembered meeting a parent for the second time, who told me I had changed the course of her breastfeeding journey. She said, I am here 6 months on, though all our trauma, because of this idea you gave us. I had forgotten I’d even said it, but the awe of the rippless of parent to parent support caught me in that moment.

Now I share it with you too.

Many supporters and loved ones will offer you support and advice. They offer you pieces of their puzzles, only YOU will know which pieces of puzzle you are offered, actually fit.

Some won’t. That’s ok. But please keep searching until your instincts are quiet again. They are powerful and will lead you. Keep asking new people until all feels well.

In case you need reminding, YOU GOT THIS


A party with out my baby


Another common query from parents at this time of year in the UK. It’s Christmas party season with employers and families alike.





So what’s the norm for breastfeeding families in these scenarios?





From the moment your baby was born, they began to rely on you for nourishment, comfort, safety and as researcher Neils Burgman would say, anywhere other than with you, is other to them.





We know babies grow most optimally with human milk, kept close to their parents and when permitted to feed without restriction day and night. (More on feeding intervals)





This way of parenting, isn’t the one projected in popular media & on the screens. So is no wonder that when an event calls for alcoholic drinks and late nights, parents can feel conflicted about what to do.





Things to remember





3 month old @ the casino work party




A symbotic unit





You and your baby are a symbiotic unit, you respond to each other and so in separating for more than an hour or two, you’ll need to make adjustments.





Pumping before





Most parents will have to pump several times to make up enough milk for one feed whilst they are away. (It’s ok to combine milk of the same temperature). More on milk storage.





Pumping whilst away





Your breasts will continue to make milk whilst you are away, you will need to express or hand express to relive discomfort. Avoiding this is likely to greatly increase your chances of mastitis. This feels like the flu & is not what you’d wish for with a hangover!





More than food





It’s a factor most of us are not used to considering, but your baby has know your voice, heart beat, smells and those in your daily environment long before they where born. You are their safe space and it’s worth considering if they are connected in the same way with the person you intend to leave them with.





Breastfeeding, as you’ll have guessed by now, is so much more than just nourishment. For both of you.





What can you do to reduce the changes? Can you help the other adult use a sling/carrier your baby is used too? Can they look after the baby at your home?





Emotions





Even if your baby takes milk perfectly, sleeps and doesn’t utter a cry (unlikely!), you are likely to run though a range of emotions whilst you two are apart. This is part hormonal due to breastfeeding but also a sign of the wonderful bond you have together.
Maybe you made a different choice in the past, it’s OK to make a different one with different information or feelings.





What do other parents say?





trust your gut, say no if you want to!

parent – Instagram




Bring baby with partner or parents and you can nip off for feeds.

parent – Instagram




The days with baby are short. Stay with baby, there will be many more parties!

parent – Instagram




Alternatives





Baby won’t take a bottle? Try an open cup or sippy cup with an older baby.





Go for just the party and travel home.





or ask the care giver to stay near by for regular breastfeeding breaks.





Take the baby along with you! If you are bold, pop the baby in a sling on your front and enjoy the cooing coworkers. Igorne the nay sayers who seem annoyed.





Lastly, you could just skip the event altogether. There will be plenty more in your lifetime, but the baby days are fleeting.


Stretchy wraps – info & tips


Two way strechy wrap (Hana) in a
Front wrap cross carry




Another day and another common query from a parent. This one wants to share all the positive effects of carrying with her pregnant friend & gift her a stretchy wrap.





My friend is having a baby in Nov and I want to gift her a stretchy for those first weeks and months! Any brand you recommend?

A caring friend, 2019




I could give a one line answer & a link to my personal favorite brand BUT not only is that not my style, it doesn’t fit with my desire to empower parents.

So wether you are wanting to buy a wrap for a friend, or looking for yourself, I hope this information will help.





Stretchy Wrap (Video)





Stretchy Wrap intro




What is a stretchy wrap?





Let’s start at the beginning.





  • A stretchy wrap is a long, stretchy length of t shirt like fabric
  • They usually come in one size fits most length.
  • They are often a cotton blended with something stretchy.
  • Most often used between newborn and around 3 months, although many use longer.
  • Two main sub types, stretching in two ways, or one.




One way & two way





The most common type seen on market, is the two way stretchy wrap.





Two way stretchy





  • This means it has stretch in the fabric horizontally and vertically.
  • It is very easy for someone learning to get the baby in and snug.
  • As the baby grows, the strechyness means the baby will sink from where you first had them in the wrap.
  • This will happen eventually in either type, although oftern later in a one way stretchy wrap.




Link – two stretchy wrap tutorial





Few hours old, very hungry baby.
Two way strechy wrap (Hana) in a Pocket wrap front carry




One way stretchy





  • Same as above except –
  • Fabric stretches most in one direction only.
  • Requires tightening more like a woven wrap (not stretchy).
  • Some parents find they can carry their baby longer before needing a new type of sling




Link – Tighen one way stretchy wrap





Two way strechy wrap (Hana) in a
Kangaroo Carry




Buying options





  • In short, you get what you pay for with stretchy wraps.
  • You can pick one up for £6 BUT honestly, it’s worth the investment in a bigger brand.
  • There are free hire schemes for newborns around the county, is there one near you?
  • Look around your online market places, second hand slings are an affordable option for many !
  • The colours and patterns do not affect their function, but choosing one you like might make you smile on a tough day.
  • Investing in a higher quality stretchy wrap, often means they can last thought multiple children, and be lent to friends with bumps.
  • I personally, I have 6 types in my teaching bag but I love most, an organic bamboo Hana baby wrap đŸ˜‰




Want to know more about these types of slings? You can read more in the links and book to work with me 1:1 online and in person in Buckinghamshire.





Read more





find a local sling library and skilled helpers





Everything you’d ever need to know about stretchy slings (inc how to videos)





Stating to sag or feeling to heavy?





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Useful resources – Infant feeding


Don’t Google it!





Start your searches for infant feeding answers here. You will thank me.





Websites





All of the following websites have a wealth of information / blogs online.
Most of your questions will find answers here!

If I missed out your favorite, please add it in the comments đŸ™‚





Breastfeeding.support





UK based IBCLC





Kelly Mom





America based IBCLC





Milk Meg





Australia based IBCLC





GP Infant Feeding Network





UK based GP’s !





La Leche Leauge





International breastfeeding Charity





Drugs in Breastmilk service (ABM)





General breastfeeding books
You’ve Got it in You: A Positive Guide to Breast Feeding – Emma Pickett





Breastfeeding and Medication – Wendy Jones
Why Mothers’ Medication Matters – Wendy Jones (shorter read)





The Positive Breastfeeding Book: Everything you need to feed your baby with confidence – Amy Brown 





Why Breastfeeding Matters – Charlotte Young 





Classic books
The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding – La Leche League International 





Adventures in Tandem Nursing: Breastfeeding During Pregnancy and Beyond – 





Hilary Flower





Breastfeeding supporters / specialists





The Breastfeeding Atlas – Barbara Wilson-Clay





Supporting Sucking Skills In Breastfeeding Infants – Catherine Watson Genna





Breastfeeding and Human Lactation, Enhanced Fifth Edition – Karen Wambach 





Milk Matters: Infant feeding & immune disorder – Maureen Minchin





Context, politics and more





The Politics of Breastfeeding: When Breasts are Bad for Business – Gabrielle Palmer
(short, hand size version)
Why the Politics of Breastfeeding Matter – Gabrielle Palmer 





Breastfeeding Uncovered: Who Really Decides How We Feed Our Babies? – Amy Brown 





The Big Letdown: How Medicine, Big Business, and Feminism Undermine Breastfeeding – Kimberly Seals Allers

With Black parents in mind





The Mocha Manual to a Fabulous Pregnancy – Kimberly Seals Allers





The Mocha Manual to Turning Your Passion into Profit: How to Find and Grow Your Side Hustle in Any Economy – Kimberly Seals Allers





The Mini Mocha Manual to a Fabulous Pregnancy: The Ultimate Pregnancy Guidebook for Black Women (The Mocha Manual 4)





– Kimberly Seals Allers





The Mocha Manual to Military Life: A Savvy Guide for Wives, Girlfriends, and Female Service Members – Kimberly Seals Allers





Free to Breastfeed: Voices of Black Mothers – Jeanine Valrie Logan 






Coming soon –
I am Not your Baby Mother  – Candice Brathwaite





With Islamic parents in mind





Breastfeeding in Ramadan: A Guide for Fasting Mothers – Latonia Anthony
Coming soon –
The Practical Guide to Breastfeeding in Islam – Latonia Anthony









Adoption, relataction 





Breastfeeding Without Birthing: A Breastfeeding Guide for Mothers through Adoption, Surrogacy, and Other Special Circumstances – Alyssa Schnell
Where’s the Mother? Stories from a Transgender Dad – Trevor MacDonald





Sleep 





Holistic Sleep Coaching: Gentle Alternatives to Sleep Training for Health and Childcare Professionals – Lyndsey Hookway





Why Your Baby’s Sleep Matters – Sarah Ockwell-Smith





Sweet Sleep: Nighttime and Naptime Strategies for the Breastfeeding Family – La Leche League International
Boobin’ All Day Boobin’ All Night: A Gentle Approach to Sleep For Breastfeeding Families – Meg Nagle IBCLC





Birth & body autonomy





The Positive Birth Book: A New Approach to Pregnancy, Birth and the Early Weeks –  Milli Hill





The Microbiome Effect: How Your Baby’s Birth Influences Their Future Health – Alex Wakeford





Period Power – Maisie Hill 





The Breast Book: A puberty guide with a difference – it’s the when, why and how of breasts – Emma Pickett 









Food Allergies
Crying Babies and Food: In the early years – Maureen Minchin





Infant Formula and Modern Epidemics: The milk hypothesis – Maureen Minchin
The Busy Parent’s Guide To Food Allergies: Everything you need to know about cow’s milk allergy and other childhood food allergies – Mrs Zoe T Williams





ALL of the Why it matters books!) 





Parenting
Why Babywearing Matters – Rosie Knowles 





How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 – Joanna Faber





No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame – Janet Lansbury






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