A party with out my baby

Another common query from parents at this time of year in the UK. It’s Christmas party season with employers and families alike.

So what’s the norm for breastfeeding families in these scenarios?

From the moment your baby was born, they began to rely on you for nourishment, comfort, safety and as researcher Neils Burgman would say, anywhere other than with you, is other to them.

We know babies grow most optimally with human milk, kept close to their parents and when permitted to feed without restriction day and night. (More on feeding intervals)

This way of parenting, isn’t the one projected in popular media & on the screens. So is no wonder that when an event calls for alcoholic drinks and late nights, parents can feel conflicted about what to do.

Things to remember

3 month old @ the casino work party

A symbotic unit

You and your baby are a symbiotic unit, you respond to each other and so in separating for more than an hour or two, you’ll need to make adjustments.

Pumping before

Most parents will have to pump several times to make up enough milk for one feed whilst they are away. (It’s ok to combine milk of the same temperature). More on milk storage.

Pumping whilst away

Your breasts will continue to make milk whilst you are away, you will need to express or hand express to relive discomfort. Avoiding this is likely to greatly increase your chances of mastitis. This feels like the flu & is not what you’d wish for with a hangover!

More than food

It’s a factor most of us are not used to considering, but your baby has know your voice, heart beat, smells and those in your daily environment long before they where born. You are their safe space and it’s worth considering if they are connected in the same way with the person you intend to leave them with.

Breastfeeding, as you’ll have guessed by now, is so much more than just nourishment. For both of you.

What can you do to reduce the changes? Can you help the other adult use a sling/carrier your baby is used too? Can they look after the baby at your home?

Emotions

Even if your baby takes milk perfectly, sleeps and doesn’t utter a cry (unlikely!), you are likely to run though a range of emotions whilst you two are apart. This is part hormonal due to breastfeeding but also a sign of the wonderful bond you have together.
Maybe you made a different choice in the past, it’s OK to make a different one with different information or feelings.

What do other parents say?

trust your gut, say no if you want to!

parent – Instagram

Bring baby with partner or parents and you can nip off for feeds.

parent – Instagram

The days with baby are short. Stay with baby, there will be many more parties!

parent – Instagram

Alternatives

Baby won’t take a bottle? Try an open cup or sippy cup with an older baby.

Go for just the party and travel home.

or ask the care giver to stay near by for regular breastfeeding breaks.

Take the baby along with you! If you are bold, pop the baby in a sling on your front and enjoy the cooing coworkers. Igorne the nay sayers who seem annoyed.

Lastly, you could just skip the event altogether. There will be plenty more in your lifetime, but the baby days are fleeting.

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